I have a great one to one relationships with people. It is easy for me to make an impact on one person. However, it is not the same with groups. I’d rather take a bullet or be abducted by aliens if there is a group I have to influence. (insert nervous laughs) But usually, in our daily lives, it is about making a personal impact on someone. And to make a personal impact you have to come off pretty confident.
Consider how you wish people to perceive you. If you are an introvert like me, usually I just state that I am an introvert. Definitely, in cases where meets and conversation are for a shorter period of time and you might probably never see the person again, it is easier to just get it done with.
These will be just the right ways you will need to keep in mind before you set out to make an impression on someone. See how it helps your self-confidence.
Set the intention
It is wise to set the intention in your mind first.
What is that you seek from making this impact on this particular person. How do you want to look and sound to them? What is the purpose of you trying to make an impression on them? What outcomes do you seek etc? I can’t for the love of god fake it till I make it and so what helps me to not become anxious and clear my mind is setting my intention.
I am not an expert and trust me I have to work with myself. However, tell yourself that you are proud of who you are and what you have made of life and stand tall.
Straighten your back and always look up. Avoid letting all the thoughts take control and so the best you can do is be slow and calm with your steps and talk. Think carefully, make calculative moves and don’t think your time is running out. If you wish to make a positive personal impact you have to not look disoriented.
Oh, how I have shrunk the tension by just smiling.
Yes, the person we are trying to make an impact on has to feel comfortable. When you smile you look very approachable. It helps build a positive environment.
Perhaps a timely nod or hand movements to add emphasis to your point. These are great in conversations as the person feels heard and you look more assertive of what you speak.
To communicate confidence this helps a lot.
I find trouble making eye contact if you have read my posts before you would know I struggle with self-confidence. That’s where my intention takes control. When I know this is what I want I will look you in the eye and say it to you. It is as simple as that and it works wonders.
Don’t speak too softly
Another set where I have to make efforts.
But over time I have learned and it comes naturally to me. Being inaudible is of absolutely no use. At the same time if someone is trying to make an impact on me and is too loud, wouldn’t work either. That’s where you have to create a balance, bring variety in your tone. Know exactly what you have to say and enunciate words.
Remembering people’s names shows how attentive you are to what they said. Maybe use their name in the conversation to grab their focus and keep them interested.
I am not ashamed to repeat how I am not an expert and basically learning or making efforts at making an impression on people myself. And this is my way of telling you if you are anything like me, self-conscious, introvert, shy adapting these ways can help us go a long way in the pursuit of making a personal impact on someone.
Do you use any of these ways? Do you have more ways to add to this list? Do mention them in the comments down below.