What? Embracing bad mood? Wasn’t she the one who made a video recently all about lifting mood? Exactly I DID! And if you would like to watch it check it out here.
The starting point is always accepting and embracing your negative mood. Once you have accepted that ‘I don’t know why but I don’t feel good’ you can start with ‘Yes, but I should definitely deal with it’. An optimal life is all about accepting the negative and positives of life and something we regularly face is negative moods.
Especially if you are a woman you obviously hate when you feel like you don’t have any control over your emotions during your periods and one would think you should have already been able to learn how to deal with it in those days. But it is not that easy at all! I know I just randomly start to cry out of nowhere also doubting my sanity?!
That said I am sure every human faces these occasional phases of mood change.
What I do is simply accept that I am not in a good mood.
I start to shift my focus and think more about my dream life, what I want it to be, how it will be and channel all those happy feelings with the thought of a bright future.
Here is when you should also stop yourself from thinking more of the negative stuff and involve in some self–talk.
Avoid being on social media or even thinking about your goals too much you might trigger the inner mood killer.
Just feel the moment really, yes the negativity! But try to feel superior and have control over it. It is part of you but not YOU as a whole.
Let the others around you (if you are around people or anyone) know that you are not in your best moods.
If you are someone usually having a “bad mood” people might have had enough of you! But if you are someone who usually handles things well, it is okay to occasionally let it all out and allow others to help you out or at least know how you feel.
If you react to people giving you a hard time or maybe are just there listing you stuff you have to do there is a good chance you will burst into flames!
But worst keeping it all to yourself might not be ideal for your overall mental health. You might start feeling resentful which is harmful to you more than anyone.
So it is ideal to let people know with a very calm tone and maybe with a smile that your mood kind of feels low. They might help you lift your mood or if you need some space then it is best to communicate it rather sitting there with a gloomy look on your face.
In cases where people don’t understand you and cause trouble for themselves by prodding you too hard, you can always tell them…
DO NOT involve in judging yourself depending on your mood. ‘Why do I feel like this?’ Or saying, ‘I am no good’. Part of accepting your negative mood is accepting yourself and being affectionate towards yourself and how you feel.
Listen to your desires, know what makes you feel this way. Make a list of what are the things you might like to avoid that makes you feel this way or how would you like to feel in that moment. Tell yourself that it is okay if you don’t want to do things right now then involve in activities to lift your mood.
To help you with it I even have a dedicated video on Things you should do when you are upset or feel dull like mentioned at the beginning with a list of things that will help you feel better.